We go through all this because we are sick and we know it. Our disease is part of us and it will never go away. We each deal with that reality in different ways, but it is our reality. The good days come and we take full advantage of them. But they don’t last. Whether it’s after just one day or a few weeks, we will fall into a flare-up again and we will need to rest. These are the days we feel our disease most acutely. When we can’t get out of bed or have to use the supports many of us would rather keep hidden. The canes, scooters and wheelchairs that could become permanent fixtures so we fight them as long as we can. On these days, we are at our most vulnerable. And it seems to be that on these days, people who don’t understand our lives comment the most.So I will try to make something as clear as possible: I am not this way because I am overweight. Losing weight will not cure me. And getting more exercise will not end my need for a cane.